Obedience Is Not the Absence of Release
- Ulla Burns
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True submission begins where ego ends.
by Ulla Burns
The Illusion of Control
Many men approach power exchange with a quiet assumption:That they can control the surrender by defining its terms.
They say they’re obedient because they didn’t climax. They confess their urges expecting reward. They withhold pleasure and call it discipline, but pleasure was never the threat—ego was.
Obedience is not abstinence. It is not measured in what you don’t do. It is measured in what you allow to be done to you, without protest, without performance, without trying to guide the process.
The Performance of Surrender
What many call “obedience” is often a mask for control.
They perform well-behaved fantasies. They confess not to be purified, but to script the response.T hey show restraint, hoping to be praised. They say “Mommy,”but only as long as she reflects the image they want to see. That isn’t submission. It is ego, veiled in reverence. And ego has no place at the altar.
The Breaking of Fantasy
True power exchange doesn’t coddle the fantasy. It interrupts it. It dismantles the script. It offers correction where comfort was expected. It holds up the mirror—not to punish, but to reveal who is truly kneeling…and who is simply rehearsing worship on their own terms.
Many men discover, in that moment, that the woman they claimed to serve can no longer be safely sexualized. Not when her power refuses to perform. Not when she becomes real.
That’s when they vanish.And often return—quiet, shaken, changed.
The Goddess is worshipped. But the Priestess? She initiates the ritual, and not every man is called. Obedience is Not the Absence of Release.
The Priestess does not beg for your devotion. She waits .She watches.S he listens for the silence that follows your unraveling. And if that silence never comes, she does not strike you down. She simply turns away.
If you recognize yourself in these words
if you’ve performed submission but never surrendered
then you’re ready.
Begin again at my feet.
f you recognize yourself in these words—